I don’t know where you are at in your journey with the person in your life who is addicted to alcohol or drugs. But I do recognize you have a lot of unanswered questions around this relationship.

I know I did.

How can you “influence” this person? I’m sure you’ve heard that you cannot “change” an addict. In fact, we can’t change anybody besides ourselves. You can’t change a toddler, but you can influence the child’s behavior and plenty of books exist on how to do this.

But where’s the book to help the loved ones of an addict to not only “influence” the addict, but also help you take back YOUR life?

Your life can be one without all the drama . . .

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy to change, but I do have a process that you can follow that will help you change. And as you change, you can teach the addict the same process so they can get hope and start making little changes too.

If you want quick access to this process, check out the Resources tab above for my book My Friend Is an Addict – What Can I Do? Use the Roadmap Out of Addiction to Influence Your Friend And To Take Back Your Life.

You can always email me your questions regarding your personal situation. Kathy@VictoriousOvercomersWithKW.com

Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, fears, loneliness, or relationship problems?

Perhaps after going through the pandemic you’re not getting back to being your normal self as quickly as you thought you could.

Or maybe your financial situation drastically changed due to the pandemic and now today’s inflation prices.

So how do you have victory over the problems you’re dealing with today?

It’s going to take a major shift in what you focus on.

Instead of focusing on your anxiety or depression, pull your dreams for your life off the shelf and develop a picture in your mind of what you want your life to look like, feel like, what relationships do you want, what kind of financial abundance, and how do you want to make a positive impact in the world?

What Does the Bible Say About My Problems?

The Bible says “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7 AMPC).”

Are you telling yourself “I can’t handle this.” “Things will never get better.” “Nothing turns out right for me.” “I will never break this poverty mentality.”  “I am not worthy of being loved and have great relationships.” “I can’t break out of this depression.” “My whole family is like this, I guess I’m doomed too.”

That kind of thinking will produce the results you just thought about or spoke out loud.

Time To Switch Up Your Focus

Now, it’s time to switch your thoughts and words.

• Yes, I can handle this. It may be hard, but I CAN and WILL handle it.
• As I follow God’s guidance, and plans for my life, things in my life will get better. God doesn’t have favorites, so what He has done for someone else, He can also do that in my life.
• My mental focus about money is now focused on how it is God Who gives me the strength and will to do good, and He will bless the work of my hands. God created everything, including the principles for great living (which include financial abundance), and I will begin to memorize those promises.
• Yes, I am loved by God . . . and many other people. God loves me because He is love. It is not based upon any good deeds I do.
• This depression must leave as I change my focus toward God and His will for my life. I will no longer use this label of “I’ve got depression.” and instead speak “I am full of life and vitality as God guides me and I follow His path for me.
• My family history (and my own history) do not determine my future. I choose to seek God and learn how to love and serve others . . . thereby breaking the generational chain of living below God’s best!

I hope you’ve gotten some good ideas. Stay tuned for more inspiration in the days ahead.